How do you ask your end users for more information? How do you treat others around you in a meeting? How do you respond to the perceived tone in an email?
Sometimes the more important thing is how you ask a question. The question, by itself, is not always the bad thing. But if the person feels as if they are being interrogated chances are they will be less than cooperative.
When you need information, you need to find a way to get it. Being aggressive in your line of questioning will not get you all of the information that you need.
The old saying is “you get more flies with honey”, and it’s true. People need to be drawn towards you and give information freely.
As a DBA this is critical to your success. The more information you have, the better you can be in your role.