Being Right Versus Being Liked
Which would you prefer? Most people would prefer to be liked rather than right. Most DBAs I know would rather be right and could care less about being liked.
It is a delicate balance, however, and one you come across as a DBA frequently. This is especially true when you have built up a good relationship with coworkers and one of them suddenly needs a “favor”. It doesn’t have to be anything serious, but how you handle the request will say a lot about whether you want to be right or liked.
If the favor requires a process to be followed and you point your colleague to the proper process then you don’t care about being liked. If you circumvent the process to take care of the favor then you don’t care about being right.
Not everything is as black and white as I presented here, but you get the idea (I hope). There are times when you need to make this choice.
The best DBAs don’t care about being liked.